Why women have affairs?
Talk about a loaded matter that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with evils, cause heartache, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are people seeking affairs. I am conserned mostly though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos people has erected against affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your family or anybody else? You will need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your funds are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a frequent groung I fear. One or the other, generally the male is sexually neglecting his lady for a large humber of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed separately, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.